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Set/Subset

2/11/2019

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​Those of us who grew up in certain eras of elementary school education may remember - every year in the first few days of math class being reintroduced (ad nauseam) to the concept of Sets and Subsets. Cute, innocent little graphics that looked something like:
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What was up with that? Lulling unsuspecting 3rd or 4th graders into the false sense of security that math was as easy as grouping farm animals together? I wondered why the curriculum gods would ply us with such simple concepts when we all pretty much knew that within a week we would suddenly be plunged into long division and reducing to the least common denominator.*

I’ve come to appreciate those lessons recently, however - and maybe there aren’t as simple as I once thought. For example, how many times have I heard someone say, “I got rid of SO MUCH stuff, so why am I not more organized? I’ve decluttered almost every room! What am I doing wrong?"

Well…decluttering is not organizing. According to Merriam-Webster, decluttering wasn’t even a real word until around 1950 (and spellcheck still wants me to fix it most of the time).  Decluttering is, at least in my mind, a subset of organizing.  I don’t care how many things you take to the thrift store, how much goes into recycling, how many items you unload on your local Buy-Sell-Trade. It’s not the same as organizing, any more than being neat is being organized.  You can have a lot of organized stuff. You can have not much and be disorganized. You can declutter without organizing, but it’s rare that you organize without some decluttering.

I often tell the story of walking into a job from my earliest days as an organizer. It was an office, and it was pretty much spotless. Very atypical - no piles of papers, no sticky notes all over the monitor, not even one excess box of Expo markers. Keeping my composure (but silently thinking, “Oh no, what do I do with this one?!”), I started asking some questions.

As the client and I walked and talked around the room, two issues became apparent.  One, they had “cleaned up” for me, and taken lots of things out of the space. Not something I usually recommend, but ok, so far so good. But two, none of what was left was set up in an intuitive layout. Like was not always with like. Items were stored in awkward places. File labels were tough to see. We didn’t get rid of much of anything, but we rearranged and regrouped almost everything. I’ve certainly also witnessed the opposite situation - where someone who had tons of items everywhere was entirely comfortable and knew where everything was.

So while paring down is generally a part of organizing, it isn’t the whole process. Other organizational subsets might be types of planning, prevention or resisting temptation (as in, “No, I’m not going to that garage sale,”), or exploring storage options.  
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And of course, it's not always about the stuff, it’s about the stuff behind the stuff - not exactly subsets, but maybe rather elements or factors of organization. What’s keeping you from handling items and surroundings efficiently? It could be too many things, but it might also be:
  • external stress
  • internal stress
  • physical limitations
  • lack of awareness
  • lack of knowledge
  • lack of support
What other elements might you add to your list?  Farm animals aside, what might your organizing set and subsets look like?

*This post is me going out on a bit of a limb here - I was never really a math girl. 
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Seana Turner link
2/11/2019 08:07:10 am

I love this Venn diagram. It is fun to think about organizing in new ways. I love decluttering first because I hate to waste time organizing what we should be shedding. At the same time, I agree that simply reducing isn't the same as organizing. I might add "practice" to my list. It is helpful to mindfully practice new systems and work to make them habits. It isn't a given that a new system will be maintained, but rather takes a bit of intentionality when you first set it up.

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Sara
2/11/2019 11:37:12 am

I like "practice" - sort of like having a meditation "practice", which to me takes some of the pressure off for doing it all perfectly. Thanks for sharing that thought, Seana!

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Linda Samuels link
2/11/2019 09:42:09 am

For some reason, I don't remember the farm animal subsets as a way into the more complex math equations, but it's also possible that I'm blocking that memory out. Even so, I love how you related it to the organizing process. Decluttering seems to always be part of the first phase of the organizing process, but as you explained in your "Expo markers" story, not always. Even after we've decluttered and moved to the organizing phase, decluttering will most likely be an ongoing part of the process. We make decisions based on our current situation, but things shift and change over time requiring us to ask new questions and make additional decisions.

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Sara
2/11/2019 11:40:33 am

Well, consider my view a little bit of hyperbole from a girl who desperately wanted to excel at math but never quite did. Every year I would think, "Oh yeah, sets and subsets. No biggie, I've got this." Then it would all seem to go downhill! Good thing I can organize. :)

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Sabrina Quairoli link
2/11/2019 10:50:10 am

I do find decluttering in layers help. Not everyone can declutter all their stuff in one sitting. So, staring with the outer layer, then working inward deeper and deeper into the older more sentimental stuff helps people feel more willing to get rid of things because they get the sense of accomplishment of the easier stuff. Sentimental items take the most time and emotional energy so saving them for last works best.

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Janet Schiesl link
2/11/2019 12:58:22 pm

Totally agree. Decluttering is not organizing. So many people are on the KonMari wagon, but they may be just decluttering. So much out there lately saying that thrift stores are over run with donations. I wonder if all those declutterers are doing the organizing as well.

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Nancy Haworth link
2/11/2019 05:05:48 pm

I love both of the set/subset graphics! I remember those animal diagrams! I agree with you that decluttering is not organizing, but it is generally part of the organizing process. You're so right when you say "it is not about the stuff, but the stuff behind the stuff". All of those internal and external stressors and situations that can result in clutter and disorganization can make getting and staying organized a challege.

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