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Not So Fast

5/15/2017

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I love metaphors, idioms, and analogies.  Colorful language can help our brains rework a perspective and bring new awareness or understanding to a situation when a normal, dry description doesn’t cut the mustard (see what I did there?). A fun turn of phrase always gets my attention.

And so one of those idiomatic expressions came to mind recently when someone shared with me that they had spent the better part of 24 hours just throwing things away.  This person (I’ll call her Caprice) was telling me the story of how fed up she was with all of the paperwork and clutter in her home, so she just grabbed some trash bags and went at it.  No review, questioning, or discernment regarding the usefulness or importance of any item - just tossed 90% of it all away.  Now her space was clear and she felt great. The process was so liberating. It’s like minimalism, and that’s cool, right? As is often the case when people tell me stories about their adventures with "stuff”, I sensed she was looking for some affirmation.

Let’s set aside my concern (horror?) about discarding things that don’t belong in landfills, or how paperwork should be reviewed for potential shred-ability.  I was trying hard to stifle these thoughts, but after I stuttered a noncommittal “Wow,” I followed up with a question - “Do you think there’s any chance you might have thrown the baby out with the bathwater?" 
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​From Wisegeek.org:  "Throwing the baby out with the bath water" is an expression that implies that an entire idea, concept, practice or project doesn't need to be rejected or discontinued if part of it is good. The baby, in this sense, represents the good part that can be preserved. The bath water, on the other hand, usually is dirty after the baby is washed and needs to be discarded, just like the parts of the concept that are bad or useless.”   

​The phrase has apparently been floating around since the year 1512, so it’s clear we humans haven’t learned how to manage the impulse. 
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There was quite a silence after I asked Caprice the question, and I immediately felt bad for possibly making her feel bad. I have my own issues with verbal impulse control, but I just can’t pretend a decluttering binge is a great solution to organizing woes. I know that they usually don't solve any of the underlying issues, and rarely produce lasting results. It’s too much, too quickly. If you want to lose weight do you best succeed by throwing out your food and starving yourself for a day or two? Or do you approach training for a marathon by heading out one morning and attempting 10 miles after months of inactivity? How long does that last?

Sure, there’s a balance to strike - I don’t advocate agonizing over every stray paper clip and ponytail holder. But what if in the discards, Caprice’s long-missing passport was hiding in a folder?  Or the diamond earrings she inherited from her mom were tucked into an old purse? I know they’re just things (and of course, they can be replaced), but the next time Caprice wants to exercise the positive side of her spontaneity and head to Madagascar, she’s going to have to go through wasted time, expense, and trouble. Those are the three things that good organizational habits should fix, not cause. 
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p.s.  I’m open to the idea that maybe a fast, all-encompassing decluttering binge might create a re-set, and could open the door to improved organization, so if you have your own  experience to share lay it out there in the comments.
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Janet Barclay link
5/15/2017 03:57:25 pm

Wow - this is so eye-opening!

It brought to mind a client I helped when I was an office organizer. He didn't want to go through the boxes of paper, just throw them out - as you say, with no regard for recycling or shredding, never mind whether something important was in there.

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Sara
5/15/2017 06:49:38 pm

It's tough - a client is always in control of how they want to handle their stuff, but what can you do other than gently suggest that a little more careful review might be prudent? Not only from the standpoint of things of value that might get thrown out, but also the value of learning how the stuff got disorganized in the first place. Thanks for the comment, Janet.

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Seana Turner link
5/15/2017 04:11:14 pm

Very interesting discussion! It is wonderful to "strike while the iron is hot" (to use another popular phrase), but also good to proceed in a way that is thoughtful and secure. Sorting through paperwork is tedious, but important. You never know what might be tucked into a stack.

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Sara
5/15/2017 06:51:28 pm

Yes...in a stack, or in a suitcase, or in a shoebox, or... Plus as I mentioned, I don't think the purging usually results in lasting organization. Maybe because the front-end time investment is decreased??

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Ellen Delap link
5/17/2017 08:11:21 am

The emotions that accompany a big elimination like this are powerful! It's something my clients aspire to, but seldom catch the wave on this. I like to think that most everything can be retrieved, especially certain information, just in case errors are made. When a client catches this wave, it's good to create awareness about what's behind it.

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Sara
5/21/2017 02:49:21 pm

I agree about the awareness, Ellen - in this case, it wasn't actually a client, so I didn't get a great feel for the motivation. I sensed that they may have had the idea that organized = no stuff, and maybe were in a big rush, too!

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