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Comfortable Organizing

10/6/2019

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If you have a Facebook profile, do you ever check out the “Memories” section to see what you were up to in the past? I get a kick out of how many times I wrote something years ago about getting myself organized. Those posts went up a long time before I ever stumbled across the professional organizing industry, so it’s some seriously spooky foreshadowing. This morning I had to laugh when this one popped up:
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You see, I’ve spent the past week organizing in my own home, and just last night, I was - you guessed it - filing and shredding. I also worked on my closet, my office, part of the garage, and some long-neglected but really functional drawers and cabinets. I caught up on errands that I had chosen to put off for weeks. I even spent time looking over my schedule for the rest of 2019, trimming away some overcommitment and setting better boundaries. 

I looked forward to this organizing time for weeks. In fact (and you may think I’m a little cracked), I purposely scheduled it as a sort of mini-vacation. Forget Spring Cleaning, this was all Fall Organizing, despite it hovering around a soul-sucking 97 degrees every day. It was a perfect way for me to recharge - less expensive than the beach, with no sunburn or sand in my shoes. 

When I reflected on it, I noticed a few things: 
  • I feel so relaxed when I see a newly-cleared space - I literally, physically, breathe easier;
  • I have less weighing on me mentally and emotionally when I know the stuff I don’t use is no longer in my home;
  • I feel calmer and more grounded when I have a handle on my schedule - even if it's busy;
  • There’s quite a mind-body-spirit component to this organizing stuff;
  • Having a list of what I wanted to do helped, but I didn’t feel ruled by it;
  • I didn’t rush or put myself on some sort of a self-imposed deadline - the work took as long as it took (aka I went for “flow”); 
  • As a result, I didn’t stress when not everything on that aforementioned list got checked off; and
  • I focused on what did happen, which was actually a lot.

Sure, I got stuck on an item or two, lost myself in quite a few memories, and the ridiculous heat kept me from doing as much outside as I wanted. Occasionally I was tempted to dig into something others might count as more interesting that sorting and arranging. But I knew (intuitively? from years of experience?) how much better I would feel choosing the organizing over Netflix*. I also came across this Facebook Memory, which helped to put it all into a more realistic perspective:
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Oh, the days before we knew all about creating those perfect, visual, clickable posts.
No, I didn't get it all done, but I count the whole week as a win. It also reminded me that this organizing stuff actually is something I’m decent at, which is comforting. Even professionals have their doubts at times, and I’ve spent the better part of two years engaging in some goals that are not so second-nature, not so comfortable. And while discomfort most definitely leads to growth, I was so ready to lay it all down for a while. To push the pause button on all that personal expansion, curl up with the label maker and some donation boxes, and go for some good old self-care. Because improving your organization is an act of taking care of yourself. Think of it like a little metaphorical cucumber face mask for your spaces - clearing out those impurities and leaving a brighter, smoother surface behind.

Sometimes, when you’ve spent a long time trying to work on or figure out something difficult or outside of your comfort zone, it’s nice to come “home.” To come home to an activity that feels like putting on your favorite pair of jeans, or that perfect, soft, hole-y sweatshirt. You may not have the luxury of being able to take a whole week to go through your t-shirt drawers or files from 2004, and you may not find organizing as relaxing an activity as I do. But what if you took even just an hour or two to indulge in organizing something all for yourself? Something that would help you to breathe easier? A clear-out that would make you smile when you finished? 

How comfortable would that be?
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*For the record, I did check out a fair number of podcasts.
11 Comments
Linda Samuels link
10/7/2019 07:11:31 am

I LOVE your message this week! There is so much here. One of the things that resonated with me was describing the organzing process and benefit as the "metaphorical cucumber face mask for your spaces." That's brilliant.

The other thing that stood out was the idea of leaning in to the do what you're good at, and the joy and comfort that brings. I appreciate what that means as I've been on a comfort zone stretch these past few weeks. I know it's important to make time for both extremes.

What a lovely way to take a vacation. You cared for yourself, your home, and came away renewed and lighter.

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Sara
10/7/2019 08:48:10 am

Hi Linda - thank you for the kind words. I like the idea of making time for both extremes, because there is room (and frankly, need) for both. And I'm definitely heading into a very busy week feeling lighter!

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Janet Barclay link
10/7/2019 12:56:44 pm

I can definitely relate to this! Doing something you enjoy for your own benefit instead of for money or because it <em>has</em> to be done is very rewarding.

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Diane Quintana link
10/7/2019 07:23:02 am

Fabulous post! I love that you took an at home vacation to take care of the things that make your life easier at home. My office is calling me to do the same sort of Fall Cleaning. You have given me the inspiration to take some time to take care of it! Thank you.

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Sara
10/7/2019 08:49:25 am

Thanks, Diane - I'm happy to know this post was inspiring. Good luck with that Fall Cleaning!

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Mary Rice link
10/7/2019 08:09:09 am

Great post!

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Sara
10/7/2019 09:15:29 pm

Thanks, Mary!

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Seana Turner link
10/7/2019 08:20:24 am

I can completely relate to this. Long ago, before I was a professional organizer, I would spend time clearing out as a way to de-stress. On some level, I guess I realized that the clutter overwhelmed me, stealing my joy. One time my sister's family and my family were on vacation together. She came into our suite and commented on how clean the common room looked. I explained that my family understands that a disheveled room stresses Mom out, and nobody wants that. In response, my sister said, "It stressed me out too, but I guess my family hasn't gotten the message." What I find interesting about decluttering and organizing is that while not everyone necessarily enjoys the process, pretty much everyone appreciates the result. There is universal appeal to feeling that a space is ordered and light. Sort of like how good we all feel when we are healthy and exercising, although many of us don't define working out as fun:)

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Sara
10/7/2019 09:20:50 pm

Focusing on the results is huge. And I can relate on the vacation thing - sometimes my family can just see a look on my face and know that things need to get cleared. If momma ain't happy...

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Laura Huff Hileman link
10/7/2019 10:59:03 am

When you put it this way - as vacation - I really feel the link between organization and creativity. Instead of organization and ... tedious deflating drudgery with negative self-judgement and inevitable relapse into chaos.
Thank you Sara!

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Sara
10/7/2019 09:17:15 pm

I'm glad to know the reframing resonated, Laura. Thanks for commenting. :)

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